Today, we will discuss on how to help children STOP comparing themselves to others. The world today is full of people using social medias to share stuffs, so it’s common to see our kids starting to compare themselves.
Unfortunately, many children tend to compare themselves with their peers instead of focusing on their own lane and their own progress.As a result, their self-esteem can suffer a LOT.
So what can you do to help?
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Explain to your child that there’s always someone worse or better than them at things at any given moment. And that doesn’t matter one bit.
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There’s NO reason to compare ourselves with others because:
FIRST, our accomplishments and results do not make us more or less valuable or important. We’re all equally worthy of love, attention, kindness just because we were born. It doesn’t matter who is better or worse—we’re all equally worthy human beings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
SECOND, you can explain that in order to grow we need to focus on building our own skills and getting better rather than competing with others.
You can say:“Our personal growth and learning are always about us and no one else. You might not be the best and that’s okay. The most important thing is that you’re better than you were last time!”
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To help your child focus on their own progress, you can ask:
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“Can you think of something that you can do now that you couldn’t do last year?”
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“How do you feel you did compared to last time? Did you make progress?”
“Which part was easier this time compared to last time?”
Remember that these questions are important regardless of if your child WON or LOST.
The more we encourage children to focus on their own progress and wins, the less they’ll compare themselves to their peers going forward.
Hope this helps!
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